An anarchist and a Baptist attorney walk into a bar...

Interviewed by Lilly Constance

Last week I spoke with Cameron Smith and Willow Brugh, who participated in CtK.Campfire’s second cohort.

Lilly: Could you tell me about a conversation that you had with each other at the retreat that changed your perspective?

Willow: Cameron and I were part of a discussion about the scenario “What if things go wrong” with our democracy. I said that I thought things already have gone wrong for a lot of people. It was then that I learned that Cameron believed being conservative means putting power into the hands of local people. That’s exactly the sort of work I do every day, and it’s a big part of what I have dedicated my life to, so I was thrilled to find such an unexpected ally.

Cameron: Just by taking the time to listen to one another, an anarchist and a [former Sen. Jeff] Sessions attorney were able to agree that concentrating power is dangerous and that it’s a better idea to disperse power through government structures. We even discussed specific policies where we thought there could be common ground.

Lilly: What were your main concerns before attending?

Willow: I was concerned about whether it would be a productive use of time, since I was flying across the country and driving three hours from the airport to get somewhere that I wouldn’t be able to leave for several days.

Cameron: I’m not accustomed to people talking about personal feelings in a professional setting. The idea of “checking in” or “checking out” or slowing down and just talking is not as common in my world. It caught me a little off guard: I slammed into the slowness of the moment and thought, “wait a minute, we’re actually getting to know each other.”

Lilly: Was there anything that surprised you about this experience?

Willow: We agreed on more things than I would have expected. For instance, Cameron and I were able to agree that, although we want people to have access to health care, the specifics of how people might make choices for themselves which impact others in that system gets complex.

Lilly: Cameron what’s your response?

Cameron: The difference in our “language set” was shocking to me. We don’t even speak the same words: at one point Willow was talking about devolving power away from the federal government, which in my political circles had been central to every agenda for years, and then it just shocked me to realize how we live on the same planet, but our circles and language sets and policy ideas are just so different that we might well never encounter one another other than in a forced setting like Campfire.

Lilly: What did you think worked best about the setting and the format?

Cameron: Being disconnected from technology, actually having to be present, was incredibly valuable. There will always be work to be done, but I wouldn’t have been as present if I had tried to divide my time between work and the retreat. It was a good reminder that I occasionally need to turn off technology with my family and even my coworkers.

Willow: I appreciated how much unstructured time we had. Since I’m a facilitator, I think a lot about how much structured time versus unstructured time is good for people, and I tend to err on the side of having too much structured time. Being able to sit next to someone new at dinner and wander around and voluntarily enter into new conversations allowed me to have a better insight into the people there than I would have had if we had only done structured activity.

Lilly: How will you be loyal antagonists to each other going forward?

Willow: Recently I’ve been deeply immersed in crisis response for Harvey and for Irma, and once I have more concise data I’m hoping to send it to Cameron and maybe some other folks from Campfire and ask, “How does this fit with your understanding of the political world? Does it resonate or is it at odds and how can I improve it?

Cameron: I’ll probably to check in when I need help understanding another perspective on an issue. Before I become entrenched in a position, I can now reach out to people who aren’t going to see it as I will. It’s refreshing when you can disagree with someone and not get attacked for disagreeing.

The Washington Post: I wanted to understand why racists hated me. So I befriended Klansmen.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/i-wanted-to-understand-why-racists-hated-me-so-i-befriended-klansmen/2017/09/29/c2f46cb8-a3af-11e7-b14f-f41773cd5a14_story.html?utm_term=.d301fd158712

“Violence happens only when talking has stopped”, says Daryl Davis, the African-American author of Klan-Destine Relationships, who has been befriending KKK members for three decades.

USA Today: Donald, Nancy and Chuck: Bipartisanship is back at the White House

https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2017/09/14/donald-nancy-and-chuck-bipartisanship-back-white-house-james-s-robbins-column/666703001/

“A Rasmussen poll showed that Americans approve of Trump’s bipartisan outreach by a commanding 53-point margin, with Republicans especially supportive." Encouraging evidence that Americans across party lines desire solutions.

 

When a ‘Bernie bro’ meets a Republican lesbian

Interviewed by Lilly Constance

Last week I spoke with Keegan Goudiss and Sarah Longwell, who participated in CtK.Campfire’s second cohort.

Lilly: What were your first impressions when you met at the retreat lodge?

Keegan: When Sarah showed up, I was a little tipsy and I launched right into my Bernie spiel. She asked for five dollars and taught me an important lesson about government handouts.

Sarah: You’re being sarcastic right now!

Keegan: It was funny because I didn’t know who you were at all when we had that conversation, and then I looked at the bio booklet and thought “Oh, her firm has worked against a number of my clients and we actually have been pitted against each other on a number of cases.” I felt like we saw eye-to-eye in our first conversation on a couple points, and despite disagreeing on some things, I knew she was a good person and that I genuinely enjoyed having a conversation with her. Maybe if I had known who you were going in, I would have been a little more reserved or mad about the work your firm had done.

Sarah: We had a great opening conversation, but I will tell you that if there’s one group of people that I’m still holding a grudge against after the election, it’s the “Bernie Bros.” Meeting Keegan was funny because I’ve got a lot of bones to pick with the Bernie crowd. I had a stereotype in my head about the kind of person who would go “all in” for Bernie Sanders. Keegan actually still fits that stereotype, I just happened to like him more than I thought I might. I think we had a lot of fun during that conversation, and it definitely set the tone for me for the weekend. I thought, “if everybody here is like this guy, this is going to be great.”

Lilly: So how do you think you will continue to be “loyal antagonists” outside of CtK.Campfire?

Keegan: In the future there may be things I’d run past Sarah to get her perspective. I have friends who are Republicans, but I’m usually in a bubble of people who agree with my beliefs. I know Sarah definitely doesn’t think that expanding single payer health care is a good idea, but talking to her in the future about it will open my mind. It’s beneficial to have that input both professionally and personally.

Sarah: Keegan made the good point that when he looked me up, he realized that we work on the opposite sides of issues. When you’re in Washington, you attack the other side. You’re looking for vulnerabilities, and so there’s not a lot of trust there. One of the benefits of having a friendship with Keegan, especially striking it up in the context of something like Campfire where trust is really important, is that I feel like I can talk to him professionally about some of these issues and know that it wouldn’t be used against me. Anybody looking at us would see that we’re very much on opposite sides, but I feel like we can back-channel with trust, which is unusual in Washington.

Lilly: What surprised you the most about the Campfire experience?

Keegan: What surprised me were the components that actually made me challenge how I think about things professionally. I was expecting to meet some really fantastic people who had different perspectives, but I didn’t expect there to be elements like the leadership exercises that asked me to think about how I communicate and how I challenge other people.

Sarah: For me, it was how not focused on policy it was, and how much effort was put into creating personal relationships. I thought we were going to do a lot more talking about policies, but it was really trying to make us know each other as people and friends. I’ve always thought that sitting in a circle and talking about your lives must be something that people on the Left do. They don’t do a whole lot of that on the Right, and so I think part of me was surprised by how much I enjoyed it.

Keegan: So have you gotten your office to sit in a circle yet?

Sarah: No. NO!

Sarah and Keegan at CtK.Campfire

Sarah and Keegan at CtK.Campfire